Letter To Cory

You asked me what i thought intimacy was all about. Well, here is my take:

Intimacy is truth. It is shedding the masks and being what you truly are with someone, warts and all. It is, in turn, seeing the other person...really seeing them. Intimacy is a level of communication that happens, often without words, that is loud and clear. The person doesn't idolize you, or love you for your potential...they somehow see you, in that present moment, with your fear and sweat and joy and shame and in their eyes you are beautiful. You are perfect in your non-perfection. You could have hours and hours and hours of sex with someone and never once, not for a second, be intimate.

But here is the catch. Ya gotta know intimacy with yourself before you will know it with someone else. You gotta be able to spend quiet, truthful times with yourself and get to a place where you can really see yourself, warts and all, and find yourself and your life magnificent. If you think that the voices that lecture you for being a failure or too fat or not enough or a pathetic joke...if you think only you know about those voices ... you are wrong. If that is what you believe about yourself, you will bathe everyone around you in that energy. Then...you will not know intimacy and you will attract people into your life that will prove those voices correct.

"My life sucks." BOOM...your life will suck.

"She is going to eventually leave and break my heart." BOOM...she is packing her bags and breaking your heart.

"I will never heal from this pain." BOOM...six months later and you are still sufferring.

You create your reality. Chose that you want your life to rock and then decide that it already does rock.

See?

When you avoid intimacy, you are avoiding yourself....not the other person.

Mantra to live by: see my august entry entitled "Brent David Johnson".


Or let us use your own words from a marketing angle:

INTIMACY: Hang Out With Your Wang Out

...coming soon to a theatre near you.